From the Desktop

by Trish Utter, Publisher & Chief Bottle Washer

Well, this isn’t what I was expecting to write about in this issue, but it is something we all have to face at some point. I recently had a friend who was like a second mother to me pass away. Her daughter is my age and we have grown up together, almost as though we were sisters.

No one teaches you how to handle death. Unlike a wedding, no one talks about what to expect, and most of the time there is no planning.

I have had lots of experience in this arena, as my parents passed away when I was younger, so I had to handle everything. Being financially taken advantage of with funeral arrangements was something that I had experienced. It’s such an emotional time that you will sign just about anything to get it over with. I’m glad that I could help my friend. No one should go through this alone.

I remember being asked at the funeral home what type of handles I wanted on the casket. I felt guilt for asking for something affordable. It can be overwhelming and so painfully upsetting. The cost of funeral arrangements can range from $3,500 to $30,000! I can remember the funeral director saying, “Don’t you want the best for your loved one?”

I believe that once someone dies, they have gone. The body is just an empty shell. I don’t understand viewings. Why would you want to look at an empty shell? The person is no longer there. Why spend thousands of dollars on unnecessary things for a funeral? Yes, there should be some kind of celebration of the person’s life and that is something you should talk about with your family. Do you know what your loved ones want?

This is a very awkward subject, but I hope that through reading this, it will open a dialogue, so that you can have peace of mind.

Make sure you live your life to the fullest, and keep living …The Good Life!